Wednesday, November 11, 2009


Accepting change can be so difficult at times. Why is that?

It’s a thing called resistance. And the more we resist something, the more uncomfortable we become. And that discomfort can ruin our day if we allow it.

Sometimes, we have to let it ruin our day. We have to feel the pain of our resistance. It's a time for understanding and acceptance of what is occurring FOR us--FOR our learning.

And then what?

We have options. Stay in resistance? Discomfort.

Ask for the learning? Less discomfort.

Understand that it's all happening FOR our greater good at exactly the right time? Trust.

Staying in the resistance is usually the most painful. Eventually, we learn to accept what is occurring when our awareness is available in our thinking. This can take time. Our resistance is most often around our desire to change others so that we can feel better about our own world, ourselves.

We cannot change other people. We can only change ourselves.

Here's the key. What we don't like about that other person at that moment is what we don't like about ourselves. It's a mirror right in front of us. It's our signal that it's time for a change.

And now we can cut ourselves some slack and realize that we are in a process of "shift." We are growing and expanding. We can focus on what we want to change about ourselves and create the space for our growth. For, if we continue in that resistance, we are in the place of what we don't want. And we don't want that to expand, do we?

Your power resides in your clarity around you.

“Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don't have to like it ... it's just easier if you do.” ~Byron Katie


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  2. Kim,
    Congrats on your blog! Love that you started it on 11:11:"11"! Am reading The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford and she talks about how others are merely mirrors of ourselves—showing us things we don't always want to see!
    Looking forward to more,
    P.S. Wanted to edit my post but couldn't, so I deleted it! Btw, have you seen mine as